Wed02

21 Suggestions For Success

Posted on Mar 2, 2011 in Personal Development, Quotes, Reality Checks, Relationships | 1 comment

21 Suggestions for Success
by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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  • Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
  • Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.
  • Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  • Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
  • Be forgiving of yourself and others.
  • Be generous.
  • Have a grateful heart.
  • Persistence, persistence, persistence.
  • Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
  • Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
  • Commit yourself to constant improvement.
  • Commit yourself to quality.
  • Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
  • Be loyal.
  • Be honest.
  • Be a self-starter.
  • Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.
  • Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
  • Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
  • Take good care of those you love.
  • Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.

 

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Sat26

My Personal Accountability…

Posted on Feb 26, 2011 in Personal Development, Reality Checks | 0 comments

Today I decided to make a commitment in the next phase of changes I need to incorporate into my life as well as take a more bold approach in doing so. I have helped alot of people make changes in thier lives and now I am being and holding myself to an even higher standard. I also want to make a difference in the lives of others and not just sit idly by and have the opportunity to help someone slip by day after day. I have created a youtube channel to chronicle the changes and have a open record of the stories of the people that I help. It is my hope that as time passes I am able to demonstrate that anyone can make those needed changes to move forward in life and in the direction of their dreams.

 

The channel can be found here - http://www.youtube.com/user/MrRaphaelLove I hope that you visit, participate and comment as well.

 

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Fri29

5 Ways to Get Back With Your Ex

Posted on Oct 29, 2010 in Personal Development, Reality Checks, Relationships | 0 comments

Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them. So not only are these 5 tips to get back at your ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.

1 – Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.

2 – Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.

3 – Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.

4 – Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

5 – Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.

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Thu21

Waiting for the Possible

Posted on Oct 21, 2010 in Personal Development, Reality Checks | 1 comment

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Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.

There are those that think they can, there are those who wish they could and then there are those who are waiting for providence to intervene on their behalf. You have to decide each day which you are going to be.

For those who think that they can, the world is your oyster. You just have to carve out the piece that you want to take on for that day.

If you are or have decided to be one who is wishing for the ability to do what you would like to do, just start something, anything to create the momentum. By doing that. you will give yourself a sense of possibility and and build confidence into believing that you can.

However, if you are waiting for something or someone to do things for you, it might happen. Then again it might not. I would suggest that possibly a better chosen course of action would be to stop waiting and start doing. If you are having difficulty with breaking out of the waiting cycle, please see my post on planning. (Good stuff there even if I say so myself) It might provide a slightly different perspective to help change “waiting” into I can!

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Mon18

Seven Crimes You Should Never Commit

Posted on Oct 18, 2010 in Personal Development, Reality Checks | 0 comments

Seven Crimes you should never commit:
1. I don’t think.
2. I don’t know.
3. I don’t care.
4. I am too busy.
5. I leave well enough alone.
6. I have no time to read and find out.
7. I am not interested.
If you take a moment and think on each of these… You will soon realize that the the contrary of any or all of these when applied are some of the most empowering things that one can do for him/herself. Furthermore when applied in mass amounts could empower a community or even a nation! On the other hand not committing these common crimes could be the key to you having much better days.
So when you say your bored or even think that something doesnt apply to you take a second and think about which of the above crimes you are commiting. Then simply do the opposite!
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Sat16

Start Helping Others and in The Process Help Yourself

Posted on Oct 16, 2010 in Personal Development, Reality Checks | 2 comments

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I really love helping people!

It really feels good to be able to say that…! In today’s truly selfish world of “What about me” I can say “What do you need help with?”. Not that I am wearing rose-colored glasses, but I truly and genuinely care about people improving themselves. Selfish people can do what they do best as far way from me as possible. Believe me they know who they are.

In life there are so many ways to do so many things. Some are difficult to almost insurmountable problems for one person while those same things are simple to-do list items for others. When you take time to step outside your comfort zone and find someone who may need a friend or just a helping hand it can be very rewarding. I have worked with the homeless, people in foreclosure, financial trouble, broken relationships and a wide variety of situations. Some individuals just needed a light in the darkness to find there way to the next opportunity. I am just a regular person with really good intentions.

“An effort made for the happiness of others lifts us above ourselves.”

~ Lydia M. Child

If you are in need of help contact me I will do what I can to steer you in the right direction if I cant help you personally. If you don’t need help but have the urge to do more with your life then there are many options out there. Start close to home by seeing if the local shelter for the homeless needs some help. You don’t have to go and find a homeless person to help if that is not part of your personality. It can be a simple as taking some time on a saturday afternoon and calling everyone in your phone list on your cell phone and doing a “Check in to catch up”. You just might be amazed how something that simple can help you as much as it does them. I know you only have the people you care about on your phone…. Riiiight? Meanwhile it would also give you a chance to clean up your phone list. I also realize that some may feel that it’s intruding to just call someone you haven’t spoken to in a couple of years just to say hi. Especially when the last time you spoke to them you were making a bet on the Buffalo Bills winning the Super Bowl. A bet I lost 4 times by the way! But when you think about it, there was something about them that made you friends in the first place. Why not see what has happened to that old friend that you still happen to have their number in your phone?

And then again if you are afraid of your phone…

There are also organizations that are looking for all the help they can get:

Volunteer Match
Volunteering – HUD
Smart Volunteer

The most valuable commodity that we have in our lives is time. Time cannot be created or destroyed. But when it is give freely with good intention it is a beautiful thing. Yes there have been times when I had the best of intentions and a bucket load of patience, only to realize that the time that I was giving was completely unappreciated and taken for granted. I chalk those situations up to just being lessons learned and to move on to the next opportunity for sharing or giving. Even in those situations it made a difference in a persons life that they found me to thank me years later.

Don’t let the time or opportunity slip by and then regret what might have been. Start looking for chances to help and share some positivity with someone today. You really never know where it could lead.

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